Not a fan of small talk? You are not alone! Most single professionals in Pittsburgh think small talk is awkward on a first date. So, how do you get to know someone, especially on a first date? 

Look at each date as a new beginning. Be positive and open-minded. Always be yourself-do not try to be someone you’re not. Keep it light-do not turn the first date into a job interview. Do not discuss politics, sex or religion. Be sure to ask about the other person-It’s not all about you. A date is not the time to discuss your ex-spouse or significant other, how much you hate your job, or how bad your children are. If you need a good ear-see a psychologist. 

We recommended asking interesting, open-ended questions! Not only will it make conversation during the date more fun and interesting, but it will also make you stand out in your date’s eyes! Avoid having your date answer questions with a simple yes or no response followed by an uncomfortable silence by asking questions that require more detail to answer. 

For instance, what was your favorite childhood vacation instead of do you like to travel. What do you consider the strangest thing you’ve ever eaten instead of do you like shellfish. What was your first job instead of what do you do for a living. If you could only listen to 3 entertainers for the rest of your life, who would they be instead of do you like Frank Sinatra. Don’t dwell on the past. Everyone has a past. Your date does not need to know the intricate details. Do not talk excessively on a first date. A few moments of silence are fine. Do keep the conversation flowing - you never know where it will end up!  

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